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8 Persuasion Tips to Make Anyone like You
Persuading others is critical to anyone’s success. And one of the most effective ways to persuade anyone is to make them like (and even love) us. That’s why ever since kindergarten, we would come up with a lot of different ways just to get accepted by other kids. Unfortunately, not all of us have the same success rate. As we grow older, the desire to fit in doesn’t fade away. For many people, getting liked by others is as important as the food they eat. Let me show you a few tips to making people like you:
Tip # 1: Keep On Smiling. One simple way to get people to like you is by smiling. People tend to shy away from those who seem unfriendly. For a stranger, a blank expression is almost as good as a “stay away from me” kind of signal. However, your smile should not be forced. When you smile but deep inside you have bad feelings towards someone, it would show in your body language and they can actually read it. What you could do is focus on the positive traits about that person and think about those qualities when you smile to them. That way, your positive thoughts would allow you to create a genuinely likeable smile.
Tip # 2: Be Sincere. Nobody wants to deal with fake people. If you can’t give a person a sincere comment, then don’t bother giving one at all. For example, don’t tell a person to “do his or her best” when you don’t really mean it. Believe me, if you’re not sincere, it’s going to show. These days, it’s easy to spot a fake a mile away. The way you smile, or the way you carry yourself, more or less tells other people whether you’re real or not.
Tip # 3: Be The Bearer Of Good News. Everybody wants to hear good news. One remarkable way to make people like you is by giving them positive news as often as possible. In time, you’ll be associated with good news and good luck. This kind of idea also works vice-versa. If you’re usually the bearer of bad news, then people will unconsciously see you as a dark cloud. You don’t want to be called, “Bad News Barry” or “Bad News Beth” behind your back, do you?
Tip # 4: Be a Positive Person. If you want to know how to make people like you, start by being a positive person. Nobody wants to be around sourpusses. Nobody wants to hang around a grumpy person. When things suddenly turn for the worse, try to find the silver lining. Always look at the brighter side. People can’t help but be attracted to those who aren’t drowning in angst.
Tip # 5: Make People Happy. Making people happy is the easiest route to getting someone to like you and getting that same person to listen to you. Need to pitch an idea in the boardroom? Making your office mates and your boss happy on a daily basis will almost ensure that your idea gets their thumbs up. Become a “happy pill.” Be pleasant company. You don’t have to get your boss coffee everyday to do that. If he needs a respite from work, don’t be the one to bring up problems. Instead, be someone who can improve his mood drastically. As simple as making people happy sounds, it’s not something you can achieve in a day (although for some lighter goals, a day is enough). If you really want to learn how to get someone to like you, you have to cultivate your relationship with that person over time.
Tip # 6: Use Proper Body Language. Making people know you’re interested in them is one key to getting liked. There are non-verbal cues you can use to indicate your interest. One of them would be maintaining eye contact. By keeping your eyes on the person talking, you are telling them that they have your complete attention. Another way to communicate effectively is by nodding your head at some of the points you agree with. I also recommend leaning a bit forward to show that you’re interested in the topic of conversation.
Tip # 7: Expose Yourself More. The more someone sees you or communicates with you, the more they will grow to like you. So get out there, show yourself, and make yourself heard… as often as you can! Even better if you can get physically close more often to the person you want to persuade. This principle does not apply only to humans. Unless it goes against their moral values or beliefs, you can get someone to like just about anything by repeatedly exposing that thing to them.
Tip # 8: Share Your Secrets. Share your emotions or feelings with others. Better yet, share your “secrets” if possible. People tend to trust you if you make them perceive that you’re sharing a secret with them. When you tell a secret, they tend to open up in response and drop their defenses. They will feel like you are treating them as close friends. They will also feel valued and important. And when you divulge something that is normally not being shared, they will feel special; hence, defenses are lowered and your likeability rate goes higher. Say something like, “I’d like to share a secret with you, but please don’t tell anyone.” or “I should have kept this for myself, but I’m going to tell you anyway because you’re a good friend.” They might even feel the need to return the favor and share their own secrets and confidential experiences with you. Hope you benefit from these persuasion tips to get people to like you. Practice often and you’ll soon be persuading and influencing people in no time. (via Ayesha Awate)
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