Family

The family is the corner stone of our society. More than any other force it shapes the attitude, the hopes, the ambitions, and the values of the child. And when the family collapses it is the children that are usually damaged. When it happens on a massive scale the community itself is crippled. So, unless we work to strengthen the family, to create conditions under which most parents will stay together, all the rest — schools, playgrounds, and public assistance, and private concern — will never be enough. ~Lyndon B Johnson

It's OK to Quit

1. Quit arguing with people about the same old foolishness! Respect their position and keep it moving!

2. Quit telling people your secrets when you know they are not going to keep them! And if you keep telling them, then quit getting mad when they tell your secrets!

3. Quit trying to pull people on your journey who don't want to travel with you. Either they believe in you and value you...or they don't!

4. Quit complaining about things you can't and won't change!

5. Quit gossiping about other people! Minding our own business should be a full time job!

6. Quit blaming each other for things that in the big picture aren't going to matter three weeks from now! Talk solutions...and then implement them!

7. Quit eating things you know are not good for you! If you can't quit...eat smaller portions!

8. Quit buying things when we know we can't afford them! If you don't have self control, then quit going to the stores! Quit charging things, especially when you don't NEED them!

9. Quit staying in unhealthy relationships! It is not okay for people to verbally or physically abuse you! So quit lying to yourself! It is not okay to stay in the marriage for the children! Ask them and they will tell you that they really would prefer to see you happy and that the misery you and your spouse/partner are living with is affecting them!

10. Quit letting family members rope you into the drama! -Start telling them you don't want to hear it! Quit spreading the drama! Quit calling other relatives and telling them about your cousin or aunt! Go back to #5 minding your own business should be enough to keep you busy!

11. Quit trying to change people! IT DOESN'T WORK! Quit cussing people out when you know that they are just being the miserable and jealous people that they are!

12. Quit the job you hate! Start pursuing your passion. Find the job that fuels your passion BEFORE you quit!

13. Quit volunteering for things that you aren't getting any personal fulfillment from anymore! Quit volunteering for things and then failing to follow through with your commitment!

14. Quit listening to the naysayers! Quit watching the depressing news if you are going to live in the doom and gloom of it all!

15. Quit making excuses about why you are where you are or why you can't do what you want to do!

16. Quit waiting on others to give you the answers...and start finding the answers for yourself! If what you are doing isn't working for you...then quit it!

17. Quit settling and start making your dreams a reality!- Quit being afraid and START LIVING YOUR LIFE! CREATE THE LIFE YOU WANT! If you want something different than what you have had in the past.....you must quit doing what you have done before and DO something different! JUST QUIT IT ...... and START DOING something to create the experience you want!


By: Veraunda Jackson - Motivational Speaker -

100 Benefits of Meditation

Physiological benefits:
1- It lowers oxygen consumption.
2- It decreases respiratory rate.
3- It increases blood flow and slows the heart rate.
4- Increases exercise tolerance.
5- Leads to a deeper level of physical relaxation.
6- Good for people with high blood pressure.
7- Reduces anxiety attacks by lowering the levels of blood lactate.
8- Decreases muscle tension
9- Helps in chronic diseases like allergies, arthritis etc.
10- Reduces Pre-menstrual Syndrome symptoms.
11- Helps in post-operative healing.
12- Enhances the immune system.
13- Reduces activity of viruses and emotional distress
14- Enhances energy, strength and vigour.
15- Helps with weight loss
16- Reduction of free radicals, less tissue damage
17- Higher skin resistance
18- Drop in cholesterol levels, lowers risk of cardiovascular disease.
19- Improved flow of air to the lungs resulting in easier breathing.
20- Decreases the aging process.
21- Higher levels of DHEAS (Dehydroepiandrosterone)
22- prevented, slowed or controlled pain of chronic diseases
23- Makes you sweat less
24- Cure headaches & migraines
25- Greater Orderliness of Brain Functioning
26- Reduced Need for Medical Care
27- Less energy wasted
28- More inclined to sports, activities
29- Significant relief from asthma
30- improved performance in athletic events
31- Normalizes to your ideal weight
32- harmonizes our endocrine system
33- relaxes our nervous system
34- produce lasting beneficial changes in brain electrical activity
35- Cure infertility (the stresses of infertility can interfere with the release of hormones that regulate ovulation).

Psychological benefits:
36- Builds self-confidence.
37- Increases serotonin level, influences mood and behavior.
38- Resolve phobias & fears
39- Helps control own thoughts
40- Helps with focus & concentration
41- Increase creativity
42- Increased brain wave coherence.
43- Improved learning ability and memory.
44- Increased feelings of vitality and rejuvenation.
45- Increased emotional stability.
46- improved relationships
47- Mind ages at slower rate
48- Easier to remove bad habits
49- Develops intuition
50- Increased Productivity
51- Improved relations at home & at work
52- Able to see the larger picture in a given situation
53- Helps ignore petty issues
54- Increased ability to solve complex problems
55- Purifies your character
56- Develop will power
57- greater communication between the two brain hemispheres
58- react more quickly and more effectively to a stressful event.
59- increases one’s perceptual ability and motor performance
60- higher intelligence growth rate
61- Increased job satisfaction
62- increase in the capacity for intimate contact with loved ones
63- decrease in potential mental illness
64- Better, more sociable behaviour
65- Less aggressiveness
66- Helps in quitting smoking, alcohol addiction
67- Reduces need and dependency on drugs, pills & pharmaceuticals
68- Need less sleep to recover from sleep deprivation
69- Require less time to fall asleep, helps cure insomnia
70- Increases sense of responsibility
71- Reduces road rage
72- Decrease in restless thinking
73- Decreased tendency to worry
74- Increases listening skills and empathy
75- Helps make more accurate judgments
76- Greater tolerance
77- Gives composure to act in considered & constructive ways
78- Grows a stable, more balanced personality
79- Develops emotional maturity

Spiritual benefits:
80- Helps keep things in perspective
81- Provides peace of mind, happiness
82- Helps you discover your purpose
83- Increased self-actualization.
84- Increased compassion
85- Growing wisdom
86- Deeper understanding of yourself and others
87- Brings body, mind, spirit in harmony
88- Deeper Level of spiritual relaxation
89- Increased acceptance of oneself
90- helps learn forgiveness
91- Changes attitude toward life
92- Creates a deeper relationship with your God
93- Attain enlightenment
94- greater inner-directedness
95- Helps living in the present moment
96- Creates a widening, deepening capacity for love
97- Discovery of the power and consciousness beyond the ego
98- Experience an inner sense of “Assurance or Knowingness”
99- Experience a sense of “Oneness”
100- Increases the synchronicity in your life

Meditation is also completely FREE! It requires no special equipment, and is not complicated to learn. It can be practiced anywhere, at any given moment, and it is not time consuming (15-20 min. per day is good). Best of all, meditation has NO negative side effects. Bottom line, there is nothing but positive to be gained from it! With such a huge list of benefits, the question you should ask yourself is, “why am I not meditating yet?”

Lessons From Life, by 90-year-old Regina Brett



1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch!
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over-prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come.
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

Ten Rules for Being Human

1. You will receive a body. You may like it or hate it, but it’s yours to keep for the entire period.

2. You will learn lessons. You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called, “life.”

3. There are no mistakes, only lessons. Growth is a process of trial, error, and experimentation. The “failed” experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiments that ultimately “work.”

4. Lessons are repeated until they are learned. A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it. When you have learned it, you can go on to the next lesson.

5. Learning lessons does not end. There’s no part of life that doesn’t contain its lessons. If you’re alive, that means there are still lessons to be learned.

6. “There” is no better a place than “here.” When your “there” has become a “here”, you will simply obtain another “there” that will again look better than “here.”

7. Other people are merely mirrors of you. You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8. What you make of your life is up to you. You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you. The choice is yours.

9. Your answers lie within you. The answers to life’s questions lie within you. All you need to do is look, listen, and trust. 10. You will forget all this.

by Cherie Carter-Scott via My Success Company

Children Learn What They Live
By Dorothy Law Nolte, Ph.D.


If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

"Passion enables you to find the shortest distance to any goal." Mike Murdock

"Don’t put your friends in your pocket." Irish Proverb

"Sometimes you see failure but God sees victory in you! God sees in you what you can’t see in yourself! O Lord you have examined my heart and know everything about me. Psalm 139:1 For God knew his people in advance and chose them to be like his son. Romans 8:29"

It’s better to stay single than to lower your standards so don’t ever lose track of how wonderful you are. So be patient, discover happiness within yourself, & enjoy your solitude.

"Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much." Oscar Wilde

"Once you think you have hit your bottom, you should start to look up as the only place you can go from there is to the top. We all go through our trials and tribulations in life, it’s how we bounce back and push forward that shows our true strength." Inspirational Flow

"Exellence is the best deterrent to racism or sexism." Oprah Winfrey

"All little girls should be told they are pretty, even if they aren’t." Marilyn Monroe

"It’s so lonely when you don’t even know yourself."

"I searched all over- couldn’t find nobody- looked high and low- still couldn’t find nobody- nobody great- nobody greater than you. Your name is above all names- you are worthy of all praise- mighty are the works of your hand."

"When your ego is shattered you find yourself shaped and seduced by the voices of people cause when you are confused about yourself you find yourself becoming what other people desire. All it takes is the right people or person to begin to influence who they think you can be and you find yourself giving into the influence and in the process lose yourself utterly." Pastor Mike

"A mother understands what a child does not say."

"When God leads you to an opportunity, let him lead you through it. Don’t get to a certain point and think that you can take over without Him."

"I love you because you tell me when to knock it off."

"When you judge another, you do not define them, you define yourself." Wayne Dyer

"You can learn many thing from children. How much patience you have, for instance." ~Franklin Jones

"You Have no choice but to reckon with me because with Him, I can do all things."

"Trials, temptations, disappointments — all these are helps instead of hindrances, if one uses them rightly. They not only test the fiber of character but strengthen it. Every conquering temptation represents a new fund of moral energy. Every trial endured and weathered in the right spirit makes a soul nobler and stronger than it was before." James Buckham

"If you send up a weather vane or put up your thumb up in the air every time you wanted to do something different, to find out what people are going to think about it, you’re going to limit yourself. That’s a strange way to live." Jessye Norman

"It’s your life. You must make difficult choices and be willing to walk away from people and situations that do not push you to be your best. It’s tough but your purpose is at stake. So, tap your internal strength and do what is necessary. Pain is temporary but your legacy can be generational if you are willing to pay the price." TuBlu Atlanta

"May the pain you have known and the conflict you have experienced give you strength to walk through life facing each new situation with courage and optimism."

Wishful Thinking... Wants to be in a “real relationship”. Not one that is forced, unreal, ect. I deserve it and my children do to. Or, i’d rather just be alone and wait for the one that will love me and show me that he does.

"Birds of a feather will gather together." Robert Burton

Stay True. Stay Positive. Stay Caring. Stay Real.

To LOVE is to risk not eing loved in return. To HOPE is to risk pain. To TRY is to risk failure. But RISK must be taken becasue the greates hazard in life is to risk nothing.

"Who you are right now is even better than what you see about yourself… but you can’t embrace who you are right not because all you see is the stuff about you that you don’t like." Pastor Mike

"Breakdowns can create breakthroughs. Things fall apart so they can fall together. That’s the mystery and wonders of a sovereign God"

"Self esteem is a deep seated confidence in oneself and one’s abilities that allows a person to face and conquer life’s challenges. ~Dr. Jeffrey Gardere"

"God sees the best in me when everyone else sees the worst in me."

"It is pretty hard.. to tell what does bring happiness; poverty and wealth have both failed." Kin Hubbard

"I don’t want to be compared to anyone."

"In the end, we will remember not the words of our enemies, but the silence of our friends." Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.

"Children seldom misquote. In fact, they usually repeat word for word what you shouldn’t have said."

"`True happiness consists not in the multitude of friends, but in the worth and choice." Ben Jonson

"The only way to have a friend is to be one." Ralph Waldo Emerson

"A person who doubts himself is like a man who would enlist in the ranks of his enemies and bear arms against himself. He makes his failure certain by himself being the first person to be convinced of it." Ambrose Bierce

"When being complacent, stagnated and stuck begins to affect your children , friends, family and job, it’s time for you to move." Rev. LaKeesha

"Sometimes you get to the place of opportunity then you back out because of fear. So God has to reconstruct you by destroying old habits, traditions, ect. As a result you feel awkward cause’ you are trying to hold on to something old when God is trying to give you something new."

"People are made to be loved and things are made to be used. There is so much confusion in this world today because people are being used and things are being loved."

"I love you because you’re so darn cute.

"We are all a little weird and life’s a little weird, and when we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall in mutual weirdness and call it love."

"I’m glad I understand that while language is a gift, listening is a responsibility." Nikki Giovanni

"Someday, somewhere - anywhere, unfailingly, you’ll find yourself, and that, and only that, can be the happiest or bitterest hour of your life." Pablo Neruda

"Live within the limits of your own expectations. Living within someone else’s expectations can create a barrier, not only to your dreams and goals… But your self confidence." Bernadette Robinson (me)

"Don’t be discouraged. It’s often the last key in the bunch that opens the lock."

"Kindness and intelligence don’t always deliver us from the pitfalls and traps: there are always failures of love, of will, of imagination. There is no way to take the danger out of human relationships" Barbara Grizzuti Harrison

"If you lie down with dogs, you will rise with flees." Irish proverb

"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." Oscar Wilde

"When you’re low down in the rut, people don’t want to bother you but when you’re pursuing your dreams and rising to the top, that’s when opposition comes. Stay focused! They didn’t bother you then, don’t let them bother you now." Rev. LaKeesha

"Do you want to see? Sometimes blindness is safe because blindness span a dependency by those who can only see your blindness." Pastor Mike

"If there were no God, there would be no atheist." Gilbert Chesterton

"I know God wouldn’t give me anything I couldn’t handle, I just wish he didn’t trust me so much." Mother Theresa

"The father, who when you com home is ready to wrap his arms around you not rehashing the life you lived. He is only concerned about the life you’re going to live right now, with him." Pastor Mike

"Sometimes you put walls up not to keep people out, but to see who cares enough to break them down."

"Sometimes God will put you behind the mountain to practice your gift." ~Pastor Mike

"Don’t be reckless with other people’s hearts. Don’t put up with people who are reckless with yours."

"God sometimes removes a person out of your life for your protection. Don’t run after them." Rick Warren

"What counts is not necessarily the size of the dog in the fight- it’s the size of the fight in the dog." Dwight D. Eisenhower

"The best thing in life is finding someone who knows all your mistakes and weaknesses and still thinks you’re completely amazing."

"Don’t be a man when it’s fun, be a man when it counts." Kendral Garlick

"Biology is the least of what makes someone a mother." Oprah Winfrey

"Sometimes you need to die, to learn the meaning of living"

"When things go wrong, don’t go with them." ~Elvis Presley

"There are some things in me that need to die in order for me to live." ~Pastor Mike

"If u step on my toe by accident & say sorry I can forgive you… won’t hold it against you. Just because you didn’t mean it doesn’t mean the pain will go away immediately… it just makes it’s acceptable & Understood that it wasn’t intentional. Time heals pain. NOTE take ya time before your next step…. Don’t be in a rush to step on my toes again!" ~Rozetta Thorbourne

"I love you because we look at life the same way."

"Anger is an acid that can do more harm to the vessel in which it is stored than to anything on which it is poured." ~Mark Twain

"It is a good things for an educated man to read a book of quotations." ~Winston Churchhill

"Your present assessment of me does not matter!"

"The essence of everyday experience is extracting meaning from everyday experience." Sir Walter Scott

God allows us to experience the low points of life in order to teach us lessons we could not learn in any other way. The way we learn those lessons is not to deny the feelings but to find the meanings underlying them .

"How you treat me tells me everything I need to know about how you feel about yourself."

I don’t want to break your heart but I’m breaking mine in the process.

"Because of you I smile right in my storm- your strength is perfect when I’m weak and worn- thank you for your love you’ve always give- thank you for grace and mercy- when all of these trials should make me sad- i will rejoice for you have made me glad- You are my joy"~ Song- My Jo, Tye Tribett

"There’s no rehab for stupidity." ~Chris Rock

"People might not get all they work for in this world, but they must certainly work for all they get." ~Frederick Douglass

"Be about God’s business so that you won’t get tangled up in everyone else’s." Ken Bobe

"The heart is the first feature of working minds." Charles Perkhurst

"Don’t make God regret that he gave you so much….. Use your gifts."

Relationship vs. Religion

"Being a full time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs… since the payment is pure love."

Be happy with you

"Just when you think it can’t get any worse, it can. And just when you think it can’t get any better, it can." Nicholas Sparks

I can't be everyone's savior

As children, most of us form some kind of idea of what we would like to be when we “grow up”. Well, I had several of those moments. When I was a little girl, I wanted to be a queen… then a teacher… then a librarian then a social worker. I just want to point out something that they all have in common, Helping Others. I was a teacher for one school year-I taught kindergarten and that was challenging. I loved it all at the same time because I saw a major difference in the children at the end of the school year. After that, I went into social services as a case manager. I’ve basically spent the last 11 years of my life getting paid to help others.

Well, it pains me when I can’t have the same impact on people in my “real life.” Why can’t I “rescue them” or give some great advice that they will reflect on then they make the necessary changes. No, I am not saying that I am perfect. I have had a LOAD of issues and It took a long time but I dealt with those issues. In another blog, I will be a little more detailed. My point is that it took a lot of work but I got myself together.  Through the years, it seems that I have been attracted to people that need some sort of help. But, I’ve come to realize that I can’t be everyone’s savior. People have to want to help themselves.

On that note, I will keep working on myself so that I can have a powerful impact on my children and those in my life that are heading in an upward direction. I definitely foresee some painful decisions ahead of me but I have to do what I have to do. I did not go through the pains and traumas of life then pull me back together just to be brought back down. I’m bigger than that.

"Be not deceived with the first appearance of things, for show is not substance." english proverb

"Be an original never be a sloppy carbon copy."

"When I woke up this morning I asked myself, “what is life about?” I found the answer in my room…..the fan said, “Be cool.” The roof said, “Aim high.” The window said, “See the world.” The clock said, “Every minute is precious.” The mirror said, “Reflect before you act.” The calendar said, ” Be up to date.” The door said, “Push hard for your goals.” The floor said, “Kneel down and pray”………"

"The art of mothering is to teach
the art of living to children."

Elain Heffner

"Sometimes the right people come into your life at the wrong time and sometimes the wrong peoe come into your life at the right time."

"Love is about realizing that an imperfect person can make your life perfect." Vea Mariz

"Thank-you for the valleys, for without them I would not recognize the blessing of the mountain."

"Regret for wasted time is more wasted time." Mason Cooley

50 ways to cope with stress

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"Remember who you are & whose you are so when the enemy comes at you, you can brush him off. But you need help from God. You cannot rely on your own will, strength and knowledge or else you will fall for the enemy tactics. Remember who you are. Reference: 1 Peter 2: 9-10"

"Don’t let someone to create you… Once you do, you give them power to destroy you."

"Do not teach your children never to be angry; teach them how to be angry."

Lyman Abbott

"People are just about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Abraham Lincoln

"Stop trying to be the man (or woman)! If YOU could fix your problems they’d be fixed already, if YOU could make yourself joyous you’d be smiling all the time. Stop putting so much pressure on yourSELF to do it by yourSELF when there is GREATER help right in front of you. Guess who?
Your creator, God (Jesus and the Holy Spirit). Ask, believe, receive."

Shariva Robinson

"Actually, you can’t blame it on the alcohal cause a drink person speaks the subconscious."

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"There is no need to reach high for the stars. They are within- just reach deep into yourself."

"It is better to have an ENEMY who honestly says they hate you.. Than to have a FRIEND who’s putting you down SECRETLY.."

Meera Teckwani

"It’s not what happens that determines your life’s future, it’s what you do about what happens."

Jim Rohn

"Exceed who you are for God. Step courageously beyond the bounds of your own limitations into God’s purpose and plan for you."

 Mark Brown

"The man and the woman who courageously walk with God will always reach their destination."