"When everything seems to be going against you, rememer that the airplane takes off against the wind, not with it" ~Henry Ford

"The way I see it, if you want th rainbow, you gotta put up with the rain"~Dolly Parton

"If we don't change, we don't grow... if we don't grow we aren't really living" ~Gail Sheely

"We've got to raise children that love to learn" ~Dr. Jeffrey Gardere

"Parental love is the foundation of good self esteem; if you are not loved by the most important people in your life, how can you possibly possibly learn how to love yourself" ~Dr. Jeffrey Gardere

"Self esteem is a deep seated confidence in oneself and one's abilitiesthat allows a person to face and conquer life's challenges". Dr. Jeffrey Gardere

Regret, no bueno

"To regret one’s own experiences is to arrest one’s own development. To deny one’s own experiences is to put a lie into the lips of one’s life. It is no less than a denial of the soul." ~Oscar Wilde

Embrace all of your experiences; the good, the bad and the ugly. I know you may be thinking about the worse thing that has ever happened to you and ask "how do I embrace that, what can I possibly learn"? Hmmm... it's all about your mindset in the matter or after you get over it. Each experience has molded you and shaped you to the person you are today whether positively or negatively. I believe that all of your experiences are not for you anyway. Help someone else. Don't hide behind a shell. Walk boldly. Hold your head up high. Stay true to yourself.

If you sweep too much under the rug, one day the rug will be too small to cover all that you've swept under it. ~Unknown

You can only keep things covered but for so long. Issues, problems, pains, hurts, disappointments MUST be dealt with. Bump the pride. No matter how much you think you have gotten over something, you really haven’t. It’s just an illusion. It will come up again in some way, shape, form or fashion. I am not suggesting that the issue will not go away after dealt with, however you will not become so fixated on the anger, hurt, pain or frustration of it all as if the event just happened.
Deal with It. Be strong. Be empowered.